I wish I could give you a hug or hold your hand when things feel so horrible. Be sure to place your address both in the letter and on the return address piece of the envelope, as some prisons do not allow the envelope to be given to the prisoner.
Making decisions about using your personal address is up to you.
Some prisons will refuse to accept letters addressed to people if they are using a different name then what was legally assigned to them. Please be conscious and aware of power dynamics and actively seek support around the acknowledgment and eradication of these dynamics in your correspondence.
Try to be aware of every feeling in your body. While it is fine and reasonable for your pen pal to want to write sexually explicit letters, it is not okay for them to write you sexually explicit letters if that is not want you want.
In general, we encourage people to use their home address and to take time to question where these anxieties are coming from.
Given that your pen pal is incarcerated, they have no access to the internet to do their own type of outreach. You are valuable to us.
We encourage everyone to do what feels right and best for themselves while at the same time looking deeper at what is causing fear and work on that as we build our movement towards abolition. You are not the first one to feel this way. You could get yourself a P.
Know that it is ok to feel weak and broken some times. If they want you to call their mom who visits them regularly, this is an invitation to become closer to their family. I wish you the best, though I cannot keep writing with you.
There is no shame in having those feelings. If your pen pal does not respect your wishes, please see our suggestion about how to end a pen pal friendship. There are times when this closeness can be really powerful and create new community for you, but it may also feel like too much.
We will not win soon enough. Take me back to the top of the page! We all carry our own assumptions and need to continuously challenge them.
If your pen pal writes a sexually explicit letter to you, and you do not want to write sexually explicit letters with your pen pal, it is important to be very clear with them. It is also possible that your pen pal caused harm to the person or someone they care about.
For many prisoners receiving one or two letters from someone promising to correspond regularly, but failing to follow up with further correspondence can be incredibly difficult. I hope you are able to keep fighting alongside us. It is important to note at the end of your letter if you want the person to respond and acknowledge your letter, or not.
Help us help others when possible. We care about your life. These are words we printed in the May newspaper written by our founder, Jason Lydon. Use your first and last name in your letters. Ask yourself what assumptions you might have about people who are incarcerated and how that might impact the way you write.
However, given that many of our members have no access to healthy sexual expression the inside of prison, at times they seek that through relationships with pen pals. We will keep fighting though. We can succeed far more when we struggle in relationship with other people.
We have never had the experience of an outside pen pal being physically harmed by their prisoner pen pal.STRIVING TO BECOME THE #1 INMATE MESSAGING SERVICE! OVER 2, MEMBERS. Stay connected with your loved one in jail! We make staying in touch with an inmate as easy as writing an email or visiting their personal page.
Moved Permanently. The document has moved here. Thoughts to consider when writing to someone who is incarcerated: Based on the guidelines created for the Write to Win Collective and Prisoner Correspondence Project.
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